Each child is different and responds differently to various forms of punishment. Strong willed children require a more stern approach, done in love. What works for one child may not work for another.

When a punishment is set both parents need to enforce it and not give in. At the same time as disciplining your child you are teaching your child the life skill of setting boundaries.

When expressing disappointment do not begin to yell. This will keep your child focused on the unacceptable behavior. Children look to their parents or guardians to set examples for them to live by. Although they may resist you at the time of enforcing discipline you are showing you care by correcting what isn't acceptable.

If you give your child a last warning for a certain behavior on a given day you must hold to it. Being consistent is the key. When you stray from your word your child will begin to manipulate you.

Grandparents and other care givers should be aware of the challenges you face with your child and be on the same page as you are on with the discipline "plan of action".

Make sure the punishment fits the crime. Use your ability to reason as an adult to make sound decisions. Don't give out punishment based on your anger or frustration. If you take time to think what is appropriate you will be able to enforce it.

Never hit a child in the head. You may inflict brain damage, which hinders your child with a permanent learning disability.

Never compare children when addressing discipline. God entrusts children for you to raise in His image. Part of this is helping them grow and develop their giftedness as individuals.

Examples of punishment may involve no television, video games, use of the phone, ipod or having friends over. Discover what your child responds best to. Some children may respond better to being assigned a punishment, such as pulling weeds from the garden, washing the car, shoveling snow, picking up their toys or cleaning the bathroom.

If you are choosing to give a time out using an egg timer to track the minutes will work effectively. Your child will begin to associate their behavior with the use of this tool and their behavior will begin to change. But make sure the amount of the time out matches the unacceptable behavior.

When your children are able to begin expressing themselves begin to ask probing questions as part of the discipline procedure. An example is "This morning you were so sweet and calm. What happened that made you hit your sister?" At an appropriate time during this conversation explain this is unacceptable behavior. During this conversation you must allow time for your child to speak. Be willing to listen to what they have to say.

The other aspect that needs to be addressed in raising whole children is reinforcing positive behavior. Acknowledge when your child completes their chores and helps with the household. In doing so you are preparing your child for the "real world".

Your child will learn from the behavior you show them. Take time to check your attitude before the Lord and your spouse so you are showing your child examples of how to function in society. This isn't to hide disagreements, but to show even during difficult times, that situations may be resolved through good communication. If you begin to complain about this, that and the other thing your child will model their life after you and fashion the same behavior.

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